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Dreaming bear seeks strong hugger/cuddler

I'm a short, hairy, sweet-faced, goateed, very fat senior (5'7", 315 lbs as of 1/3/2020) who's lived in Santa Fe, NM USA off and on since 1987. I like men as people, not just as walking penises, but I don't get out much; I have a lot of physical issues that make me invisible to most gay men: (1) my obesity; (2)my old age; (3) my need to stay on oxygen 24 hours daily at this 7000' altitude (don't worry; it's not catching); and (4) my poverty—I survive on my (a) Social Security; (b) occasional income I bring in from freelance writing (nonfiction, fantasy, and science fiction); and help from my family and friends; and (c) occasional income I bring in from reading Tarot. I used to be a gardener until my arthritis ended that.

I'm passionately interested in chatting with men who have had spiritual/metaphysical/mystica l experiences. I've had several, despite being fiercely nonreligious, and they give me hope in these trying times.

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EthnicityCaucasian / White
National heritageEnglish
Height170 cm
Eye ColorHazel
Hair ColorSilver
Hair LengthShort
Facial HairBeard
Best featureNeck
Body ArtNone
Health ConditionDepression
My AttractivenessAverage


Relationship StatusWidowed
Has childrenNo children
Wants kidsNo
Housing SituationThere is no noise
Living ArrangementsAlone
Wants to RelocateMaybe
Has a carNo

Education & Employment

EducationUniversity Bachelors
SpecialtyArt / Music / Literature
Employment StatusSelf-employed
Annual incomeup to $25,000
Job TitleRand B. Lee, Freelance Writer & Rational Psychic

Leisure & Fun

TV preferencesNews, Cartoons, Documentaries, Dramas, Situation comedies, Movies, Re-runs, Science fiction
Favorite movies typesAction, Science fiction, Comedy, Drama, Documentary, Family, Animation, Thriller, Adult
Favorite moviesA Funny Thing Happened On the Way to the Forum; The Wizard of Oz;
Music typesCountry, Classical, Folk
Favorite artistsGilbert & Sullivan; Creedence Clearwater Revival; Simon & Garfunkel
Reading selectionAncient, Anthology, Biography, Classic, Comic, Fantasy, Fiction, History, Home & Garden, Humor, Instructional, Mystery, Nature, Reference, Poetry, Satire, Science, Science fiction, I'm an author